Jun 29 2009

More reasons not to be a Goddess

I got a response from Mark! (background to this here) Unfortunately, it has simply added to the barriers I have in being a Goddess. We can now add “I smoke cigars” to my list of unGoddesslike behaviours.

Hi Mark

I’m not sure that I meet your Goddess requirements by any measure, however, I am intrigued as to why you are doing this. Why are you being so specific about the kind of woman you are looking for and do you think having a ‘shopping list’ is the best way to go about it? These are genuine questions.

The main thing that I find troubling is your definition of ‘surrender’ and ‘control’. Taking surrender to mean “give up or agree to forgo to the power or possession of another” – doesn’t mean your control over a woman? If you have zero interest in wanting to control a woman then why have you defined the necessary length of her hair and size of her waist (no exceptions)? It is certain that you do not want an equal relationship but very much want to be the “powerful” one. There just seems to be a tiny bit of cognitive dissonance going on here.

Thanks for your time.



Hi Naomi,

Thank you for your response. I doubt if I can resolve to your satisfaction the “congnitive dissonance” you perceived, but I will make a brief attempt.

Your quoted definition of “surrender” is from the dictionary, and is NOT what I mean by that word… I am talking about spiritual “surrender,” which is the most EMPOWERING thing in the world. It means surrendering the ego and dissolving into God. Numerous women who have responded to my web site KNOW this and it is what they WANT in a relationship. See, e.g., the writings and videos of Sri Sri Ravi Shankar… he talks about this extensively.

As for my “shopping list” why do you narrowly point to the “hair” and “waistline” items on my list? Why not take issue with the fact that I seek a woman who is “believes in God”? Or that I seek a woman who “is extremely intelligent and creative”? Or that I seek a woman who is “tobacco free and drug free”? What if she chooses to become an atheist, or she chooses to smoke cigars? Am I “controlling” her by stating otherwise in my profile?

I dislike it when women smoke, and I have no interest in a relationship with an atheist. Likewise, I dislike it when women have short hair or are overweight. I am seeking a woman to whom I will be attracted on all levels, and if she chooses to do dumb things (rather than being “intelligent” per my profile), then that will be a huge disappointment to me. And I will WEEP if she chooses to cut her hair short or she chooses to start eating junk food and gets fat.

Furthermore, if you look at most women’s profiles, they have THEIR “shopping lists” and I often see things like “clean shaven” or “toned” or “athletic”. What if the man choses to grow a beard, or become a couch potato?

God bless you.



Yes, I did quote the dictionary definition of ‘surrender’ – my bad. I’m replying now, will keep you updated….